Question:
A common custom among the people nowadays is for a woman or her father to
refuse a man’s proposal so that she may finish high school, college or some
specific amount of studying. What is the ruling concerning that? What is your
advice for those who fall into the trap? Sometimes, the woman reaches the age
of thirty or more and she has yet to get married!
Response:
My advice to all young men and young women is to get married quickly if the
means to it are made possible by you. This is because the Prophet (sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe
wa sallam) has said:
((O
youthful people, if any of you have the means to, he should get married, as it
lowers the eyesight and protects the private parts. Those who have not the
ability to do so should fast, as it will be a shield for him)). This was
recorded by al-Bukhaaree and Muslim
The
Prophet (sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam) also said:
((If
one whose religion and character pleases you proposes to you, you should marry
him. If you do not do so, them will be tribulations in the land and great
evil)). This was recorded by at-Tirmidhee with a hasan chain.
The
Prophet (sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam) also said:
((Marry
the child-bearing, loving woman for I shall outnumber the peoples by you on the
Day of Resurrection)). This was recorded by Ahmad and graded Saheeh by ibn
Hibban.
Therefore,
there are many benefits to marriage which the Prophet (sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa
sallam) alluded to, including lowering the gaze, protecting the private parts,
increasing the numbers of the Muslim Nation and being saved from great evil and
misfortune.
May
Allaah grant to all what is best for their religion and worldly lives. He is
All-Hearing, Close.
Shaykh
Ibn Baaz
Fataawa
al-Mar.ah
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